“Mother is gone now, but I know she still sings
Her song is eternal, she’s gone to be with the King
She’s joined that great choir in Heaven above,
She’s now made perfect, filled with His light and His love.”
These few words were included on the Order of Service which was put together for my Mum’s thanksgiving service recently. As many of you will know, she passed away on the 12th October after many years of decline due to Dementia – and for our family this verse just about summed Mum up to a ‘T’.
Mum loved to sing – in choirs, in small choral groups, along with the hymns in ‘Songs of Praise’, and really, this defined much of what Mum was about. She and Dad, in their younger days, would play an active part in the local ‘Amateur Operatic’ productions – but it was in Ministry that both would find their true calling.
Mum was the silent, get-on-with-it type, and it was so lovely to hear the many reminiscences of those who attended her funeral – people from Colne and Whalley and further afield – who remembered a gentle, loving, caring lady, supporting my Dad in all that he did within the Church.
Of course, the Mum I knew left us a long time ago, when her Dementia began to take hold – and in her latter days it was very hard to see her as she was. But as many have said, she is in a better place now – with Dad – and singing in that Heavenly choir.
Funnily enough, when someone said that to me, my first thought was, ‘That’s the sort of thing I would usually say’! – and, for someone who is usually comforting and helping the bereaved, it felt rather strange to be on the receiving end instead. But, for the last few weeks, that is exactly what has happened. I have been on the receiving end of so many lovely cards, messages of sympathy, flowers, and offers of support, that it has been a little overwhelming.
Death is part of life – and when it happens, it is often hard to come to terms with – but with the love, support, and understanding of those around us, the task is made a little easier to bear. Both myself, Colin, and the rest of the family, have felt held in love by you all, and for that we truly thank you and appreciate all that you are and have done for us.
Yours in Christ,